👽 WHY THIS MATTERS:
When you’re in a flashback, your trauma type is the shape your nervous system takes to try to protect you.
Each type says:
“Let me survive this by doing [X].”
The key to healing isn’t to shame your style.
It’s to understand it—and then stretch into the other styles when needed.
THE FOUR TYPES AT A GLANCE:
Now let’s unpack each one with love, humor, and a healing game plan 💖
🥊 THE FIGHT TYPE: “Control = Safety”
Your trauma response says:
“If I’m the strongest, I’ll never be hurt again.”
In childhood:
You may have learned to copy the bully to avoid being the target.
Or were the older sibling who had to parent others and couldn’t show vulnerability.
In adulthood:
You crave control. Over people, plans, outcomes, yourself.
You can be charming… until you're not 😬
You’re quick to anger and slow to apologize.
Love may feel like a battle. Or a performance.
Your healing path:
Grieve what happened. Grieve who made you hard.
Let yourself be soft. Crying is safe now.
Practice pausing before reacting.
Learn how to repair, not win.
Empathy isn’t weakness—it’s superpower unlocked 🧙♀️
🌟 Mantra: “Power doesn’t mean dominance. My strength is in staying open.”
🏃♀️ THE FLIGHT TYPE: “Productivity = Worth”
Your trauma response says:
“If I keep running, the pain won’t catch me.”
In childhood:
You learned that love = achievement.
You may have had anxious or critical caregivers.
Stillness felt unsafe or lazy.
In adulthood:
You’re addicted to Doing.
Hustle mode is your default.
Your brain won’t shut up. You worry, rehearse, and plan obsessively.
You crash hard when alone.
Your healing path:
Rest is not lazy. It’s medicine.
Meditate even when it makes you twitchy.
Spend time doing… nothing.
Get into your body, not just your head.
Let go of needing to be perfect or “ready” all the time.
🌟 Mantra: “I am worthy even when I’m still.”
❄️ THE FREEZE TYPE: “Numb = Safe”
Your trauma response says:
“If I disappear, nothing can hurt me.”
In childhood:
You weren’t allowed to fight or flee, so you shut down.
You may have been the scapegoat or the invisible one.
Daydreams became your refuge.
In adulthood:
You zone out. Like, a lot.
You struggle to name feelings.
You feel like a ghost in your own life.
You find people… exhausting.
Your healing path:
Gentle movement and breathwork every day.
Connect with safe people regularly (even if just a check-in).
Say what you feel—even if it’s just “numb.”
Work with anger: it’s buried aliveness.
You need grief. Not more sleep.
🌟 Mantra: “I can re-enter life slowly. I am safe here now.”
💌 THE FAWN TYPE: “Pleasing = Protection”
Your trauma response says:
“If I’m useful enough, they won’t leave or hurt me.”
In childhood:
You had to caretake your caregivers.
Your needs felt dangerous, so you erased them.
You learned to read every room like a survival map.
In adulthood:
You merge with others. Lose yourself in love.
You say yes when you mean hell no.
You attract takers and narcissists.
You’re exhausted from being so “nice.”
Your healing path:
Name your needs—even just to yourself at first.
Practice micro-boundaries like “Let me think about it.”
Learn to say no without apologizing.
Work on anger—it’s your missing fire.
You are not mean just because you are clear.
🌟 Mantra: “My needs matter. My voice belongs.”
🧠 NOTE: You’re Probably a Hybrid
Most people are a blend. You might:
Fawn in love
Flight at work
Freeze when overwhelmed
Fight with yourself in your head
That’s totally normal. We adapt.
🔄 The Healing Goal:
Not to “fix” your trauma style—but to build flexibility.
The healthiest nervous system is one that can move through all four responses consciously.
That’s when you stop reacting... and start responding.