It’s a mindset! Self love is about your inner landscape. It’s being in a consensual relationship to yourself.

I have definitely struggled with this most intimate of relationships. I’ve bullied myself, questioned my self worth, battled anxiety attacks, and gotten lost in depression. My relationship hasn’t always been and isn’t always all excellent and all loving. But I have learned somethings. These elements of self love and kindness have extremely helped me find a more consensual relationship with me...a relationship that I now centralize and prioritize in my life!

Here’s what I’ve learned...

1st Element of Self Love:

You Are Inherently Worthy

Knowing your inherent worth means you love yourself unconditionally. You don’t love yourself only post-orgasm, when someone just told you that you are beautiful, or when you ticked an item off of your “to-do” list. As a Virgo and a three on the enneagram, living in a capitalistic reality, it's sometimes hard not to equate my productivity to my self worth.

Unconditionally means you love yourself when you feel completely shitty, when a partner admits having attractions for someone else, and when you have been intensely procrastinating doing that thing, you know, that thing.

Capitalism says you need to consume or produce to be worthy. Furthermore, this very flawed system emphasizes that you need to be white, skinny, young, non-disabled and wealthy to be lovable. That’s bullshit. Your EXISTENCE itself is not only worthy of love and belonging...it is absolutely extraordinary!

I have to remind myself of this element over and over and over again...otherwise my mind will bully myself. “Luna, you are not doing enough. Luna, you don’t sound eloquent enough. Luna, your feelings are too much.” I will start comparing myself to others and will inevitably fall into a spiral of shame!!! AAAaaaah. What helps me is to take a few deep breaths and remind myself that capitalism is a flawed system and that I am inherently good...just by my existence alone.

Which leads me to my next element...

2nd Element of Self Love: Differentiate Between Shame & Guilt

Thanks to Brené Brown for articulating a concept which I have found profoundly helpful in loving myself more deeply. In Brené’s famous Ted Talk about vulnerability, she emphasizes the importance of separating shame from guilt.

While guilt says, “I made mistake,” shame says “I am a mistake.”

See the difference?

Guilt is taking ownership for my problematic and negatively impactful behavior, but shame is believing that my existence is inherently bad. Guilt can drive us toward action and understanding while shame often brings on the nervous system state of SHUT DOWN. Guilt is actually really helpful for self love because it means I understand that I am powerful enough that my actions do have impact on other people, but that I am also capable of change. Guilt helps me separate myself from behaviors, habits and patterns so I can change them. Yay!

Shame is more tricky, it can be very subtle and VERY insidious. Shame says I am inherently bad on a core level. Some religion/institutional idealogies support this idea. (Raised catholic over here!) When I believe this, it doesn’t allow room for growth. Unfortunately, shame is correlated with increased amounts of self harm and harm to others. It’s hard to be hopeful when I believe no matter what I do or don’t do, my core identify is unworthy...and wrong.

On the other hand, experiencing guilt is inversely related to the perpetuation of harm! It’s a responsible, wise, and self loving place to come from. This element is about reminding myself that I am never a mistake. I am inherently good and there is ALWAYS room for change and healing.

3rd Element of Self Love:

Boundaries. Boundaries. Boundaries.

Self love is also about BOUNDARIES. It’s about being in touch with your “yes” and your “no” and respecting the fuck out of them.

But what does that mean???

To me, it means, saying “no” if someone asks me for a favor if I know I am going to resent them later if I say “yes.” Self love is the opposite of self-sacrifice...it’s knowing and stating my boundaries.Another gem from Brené Brown is her mantra for boundaries.

“Choose discomfort over resentment. Choose discomfort over resentment. Choose discomfort over resentment.”

As a recovering people-pleaser, I know quite well that the path of self love isn’t always easy, but why is that? Why is this so challenging?? Well, one big reason is due to our dominator capitalist colonized culture.

Essentially, you and me were taught to distrust our own bodies, minds and intuition. As a little kid you may have been told, “No, you can’t touch that.” “You MUST eat this.” “That’s enough.” “Be quiet.” “Speak up!” “Sit still.” That’s just in our own homes and schools! I’m not a parent/caregivers and this is NOT about shaming parents/caregivers. Yet, it is important to acknowledge how prevalent punishment and reward systems are embedded in our culture. This is one reason why it may be hard to listen to and trust your own feelings and needs when you are afraid of being punished if you don’t get it “right.”

Beyond this, it’s important to acknowledge ALL systemic oppression that impacts your ability for self love. Due to sexism, racism, classism, ableism, ageism, fat phobia, and all other forms of oppression...it can make it real challenging to see yourself as worthy of love and belonging.

“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.” -Audre Lorde

If you don’t acknowledge all of the reasons WHY it may be hard for you to love yourself, it would be hard to forgive yourself for not always being in touch with your boundaries and advocating for them. Not knowing or respecting your own boundaries is unfortunately normal. So if it’s a struggle for you, it’s totally valid! It’s also a helpful to remember that self love is something we are all learning. To put it in a very meta way, the journey of self love is something you can have COMPASSION for yourself along the way of learning how to have compassion for yourself!

4th Element of Self Love:

Your Body is Your Ally

Your body is always doing the best that it can. Always.

“There is more wisdom in your body than in your deepest philosophy.” -Friedrich Nietzsche

The “Body As Ally” element really helps me listen for and be in touch with my own boundaries. Remembering this element means remembering my body’s inherent intelligence. My body tells me pretty much everything I need to know. When I am in touch with its cues, I can be guided in life.

My body can let me know what state my nervous system is in. If I’m in “safe and social” and feel relaxed, or if I’m edging towards “fight or flight” and feel panicked, or I am in shut down, feeling totally hopeless. When I am aware of these states, I can notice that my thoughts form from what place my nervous system is in.

For example, if I’m in a edgy conversation with a partner, I can have more awareness when I am starting to feel activated and then have more choice in de-escalating the conversation before I get totally triggered and emotionally thrown into a shame or blame spiral. Thanks, body! My body also gives me indicators for when I am excited or turned on. When I notice my acceleration in heart rate, I can be more aware to question if I am possibly holding myself back from asking for what I really want. My body also tells me when I actually need food or sleep (not just when I am “supposed to”) or else I am going to end up real fucking cranky.

Tuning into my body’s intelligent cues is a practice in and of itself. I’m not saying it’s easy, but it is a strong and essential piece on my path of self love. I will also say, it’s more complicated than what is shared here, like all things. For example, when things like trauma, addiction or gender dysphoria are involved, there may be more layers to navigating your needs and reality. All of the elements must be coupled with lots and lots of self-compassion!

Which is a beautiful segway to my next element...

5th Element of Self Love: Don’t Feel Bad for Feeling Bad

Have you ever felt bad for feeling bad? These are meta-emotions. This was a concept introduced to me by Emily Nagoski. Meta-emotions are how you feel about how you feel... and are actually more important than your "regular" emotions. Have you ever noticed yourself being embarrassed for feeling jealous? Or exhausted about feeling anxious? Or annoyed for feeling disappointed?

Challenging life experiences are normal and having an emotional response to them is a just that... a completely normal and valid response! You may have been subtly or overtly shamed for experiencing the feels...which is SO not helpful. What I think is even more detrimental to your well being is when you shame yourself for experiencing the feels. I know I do this sometimes, especially as a sexual empowerment teacher. I feel bad for feeling jealous, a lack of sexual desire, or difficulty dropping into presence and pleasure.

Your mind may try to explain away why you shouldn't be having feelings. Unfortunately, what ends up happening is you just get more lost in your thoughts and stories of why shouldn't be emotional, putting even more attention on the original distress! When these emotions don’t get to be expressed and moved, they may get lodged in your body, weighing you down, closing you up, barricading your being.

Something I have learned that is often helpful for me to remember, is that along with being human, I am also an animal. I evolved to protect myself from perceived threats (by fight, flight, freeze, and appease.) When I am experiencing challenging emotions, my body is responding to a perceived threat. Instead of shaming my feelings and telling myself, “this threat isn’t real, I shouldn’t feel this way,” sometimes, I just need to “finish the stress response.”

By “completing the cycle of stress” I let my BODY know that I am not in immediate physical danger and that I am safe. I need to energetically, metaphorically or quite literally deal with the threat by running away, fighting back, or shaking off that froze state. Exercising, screaming, showering, crying, talking to a friend are all great ways to let my body know it’s safe. However youpersonally let your body know it’s safe will be unique to you. Your self loving job is to figure out what works for you!!! This is what a lot of people call "self care" and it is a very, very crucial component of self love!

6th Element of Self Love:

Remember Our Shared Humanity

Another way I practice self love is with the element of “shared humanity.” This is remembering that whatever I am feeling is most definitely not unique to me. Every challenging feeling you or I have ever felt about sexuality, relationship, life, anything...someone else has felt that too. Anxiety, grief, jealousy, frustration, rage, confusion...we are seriously not alone in these emotions! This element is about noticing when I am experiencing challenging emotions and to then remind myself that I am not alone in these feels, that my feelings connect me to other humans rather than isolate me.

It’s so common for me to feel isolated when I spiral down into the realms of emotions. Whether I am worrying about being liked, concerned about not having sexual desire, or feeling bad for not “doing enough for the world”… it’s so common for me to just simply feel shitty. However, when I remember the element of shared humanity and that absolutely no one has it all figured out or feels awesome all of the time, I can muster more self-compassion. I feel more woven into the web of humanity, rather than hopeless. This little point of connection can help me hold better space for my feelings and seriously shift my perspective.

7th Element of Self Love:

Practice Mindfulness

Finally, I want to end with the element of mindfulness. This is the ability to observe your thoughts and feelings from a wider lense with non-judgmental compassion. Rather than over-identifying with thoughts and feelings, which is supereasy to do, it’s remembering “This too shall pass” and that change is the only constant. As a Virgo, it’s natural for me to zoom in and obsess over an idea and forget the bigger over-arching beautiful and mysterious complexity of life. Sometimes all it takes is to pause and take a few deep breaths and I can incorporate that wider, kinder, and more gentle perspective.

I’ve learned during a “Yoga for the Obliteration of Tyranny” class by Jo Mosser that mindfulness alone is not always productive. While in downward dog listening to heavy metal music, Jocelyn reminded us that self-awareness without compassion can lead to anxiety. Mindfulness paired with nonjudgemental compassion is the magic sauce for a self loving existence on this rock floating through outer space.

Self Loving Conclusion

There is a reason why loving ourselves is so revolutionary. It is free. It is needed. It is getting to the root of many issues in the world. I believe it’s so true that hurt people hurt people. The more that you can practice holding space for yourself, the more you can show up with that same love and compassion for the world...or at least you are less likely to dump your pain onto others leading to more pain. Instead, you can channel your passion and rage for change in really creative and hopeful ways! Maybe even more importantly, when you have compassion for what you want and need, you are more likely to advocate for yourself! When you do that, you are unstoppable. Loving yourself is realizing your actions have impact and that you are not only worthy...you are incredibly powerful.

Who taught me to believe this about myself?

We are often living inherited systems,
running ancient scripts passed down
through imitation, survival, shame.

But love, you were not born to obey someone else’s suffering.

Consciousness engineering, as techy as it sounds,
is simply reparenting.
It’s choosing your own models of reality—
not the ones carved from scarcity or silence,
but the ones rooted in wholeness,
worthy of your becoming.

✨ Two pieces:

1. Your Beliefs (Your Inner Soil)

2. Your Habits (Your Daily Bloom)

Beliefs become soil. Habits are the bloom.
Tend the soil. Compost the old.
Choose the seeds you want to grow.

🌿 Gentle Practice:

Create a simple, sacred “delete & download” ritual.
Write down one limiting belief. Burn it.
Breathe in a new one—write it in rose ink, and say it aloud.
“I am allowed to be both soft and sovereign.”

You are not your programming. You are the programmer.

AN OPERATING SYSTEM FOR HUMAN CONSCIOUSNESS

If you have a computer, you’ve probably had to install a new operating system from time to time. Windows 95 gave way to Windows 8. The clunky Macintosh computers I used as a freshman in high school gave way to the sleek MacBooks of today.

We upgrade our machines to make them faster, better, and capable of more complex tasks.

But how many of us even think about doing the same for ourselves?

Consciousness Engineering:

Like the best hacks, it’s beautifully simple. It all boils down to just two things:

1. Your Models of Reality

Some of us were raised with empowering beliefs. Others carry toxic, disempowering ones picked up from childhood, society, or culture.

Here’s the thing:
Your beliefs became true because you act and think in accordance with them.
But while your beliefs make you, your beliefs are not you.

You can swap them out.
You can upgrade.
You can rewrite your reality.

What You Think Is What You Get

Most of our beliefs weren’t chosen—they were imitated.

Monkey see, monkey do.
And we’re all guilty of what Buddhist’s call “monkey mind.”

Beliefs about love, work, success, parenting, self-worth, even our bodies—often come from what we observed growing up.

Your experience of the world is filtered through those beliefs.

Change your models of reality, and everything changes.

2. Your Systems for Living (Your Software)

Your habits are how you put your beliefs into action.
If your beliefs are the hardware, your systems are the software.

They're the way you:

• Eat (based on your nutrition beliefs)

• Work (based on your beliefs about success)

• Handle money (based on beliefs around wealth, guilt, or abundance)

• Parent

• Love

• Workout

• Solve problems

• Create

• Have fun

Most of us were never taught optimal systems for living. School gave us algebra, not how to eat, love, or lead.

But here’s the good news:

Systems of living are like apps—you can download new ones.
You can update, delete, or patch bugs in your old ones.

It just takes awareness.

Practice Consciousness Engineering

Extraordinary minds upgrade themselves regularly.

They:

• Curate their most empowering models of reality

• Install the best systems for living

• Perform self-checks and updates often

THE LIMITATIONS OF TODAY’S MODELS & SYSTEMS

Most people are still running outdated mental software. Why?

1. Our models of reality are programmed by the world we grew up in.

We inherited them—not chose them.

2. Bad beliefs create bad systems.

Toxic ideas about money, health, or relationships manifest as harmful habits.

3. We lack conscious practices.

We're only just scratching the surface of the mind’s true power.

To truly understand these limitations, we have to zoom out and see the world we live in—with fresh eyes.

🌸 Closing Reflection: A Reboot Into Sovereignty

Darling one, you are not broken.
You are just running old code.

And code—like stories—can be rewritten.

Let this be your sacred CTRL + ALT + DEL.
A reboot into sovereignty.
Not the false freedom of hustling harder,
but the deep liberation of asking:
What would my life look like if I truly believed I was enough?

You do not owe your ancestors your suffering.
You owe them your healing.
You owe yourself your truth.

So today, declutter the archive.
Archive the shame.
Soft-delete the scarcity.

Install a belief system rooted in self-reverence.
Choose systems of living that nourish your joy,
honor your rhythm,
and make space for your wild, worthy wholeness.

🕊️ Because love—
you are not a machine,
but a miracle.
And miracles aren’t meant to run on fear.

They are meant to bloom.

xoxo,
Groovy Girl

You are now living the rituals.

You wake eager to start your morning ritual.

You may start the moment your feet touch the floor,
or you might sneak away to another room to be private.

You know what to expect, and so does your body:
you are filled with enthusiasm as you fall into a routine of deep meaning and fulfillment before your day even begins.

You then coax that fire within you throughout the day, keeping it bright, and keeping the doubts at bay or, at least, keeping them moving on.

You then finish your day enveloped in gratitude and joy for your life and the day you just experienced.

You embrace rest with the eager excitement of a child before Christmas and peace of one who’s worked a full day to satisfaction.

This is you.

This is your life now, and you can go anywhere with your enthusiasm shining brightly.

Read on….

The Evening Ritual

So, how are you closing out your evenings these days?

Be honest: is it with the hypnotic glow of the TV, the endless scroll of social media, or that last Netflix episode that turned into four?

We know the blue light messes with our melatonin, but it goes deeper than that.

What are you feeding your brain in those final hours before sleep?

Your mind is in a delicate state, almost like it is in the early morning—prime alpha wave territory. It's a powerful time, perfect for winding down with intention.

This is when many people meditate, pray, reflect, journal, read, or simply prep themselves mentally for the day ahead. Evening rituals vary: some do yoga, some Qigong, some walk with family, and others talk about their day together. These practices are like emotional housekeeping. They help us release the junk from today and refocus on the now, with peace, gratitude, and a hopeful glance toward tomorrow.

Evening should be about readying the mind and body for the restorative magic of sleep. Prepping well for sleep is like laying the groundwork for a dream-fueled recharge. Think: gentle, sacred, slow. Avoid eating too close to bedtime. Ditch the screens and the chaos. Think of this time as the calm inverse of your high-energy mornings. Soothing. Settling. Relaxing. This is your reset zone before surrendering to the depths of rest.

Yoga

Evening yoga is a completely different vibe from the get-up-and-go version you might do earlier in the day. It's not about energizing or toning. It's about letting go—easing tension, calming your thoughts, boosting circulation, slowing your breath, and gently preparing the body to rest. The poses might be familiar, but your approach changes: slower, softer, more attuned. Whether it’s a full yoga flow or just light stretching, find what helps your body melt into rest.

Qigong

Evening Qigong is like gathering your energy inward, collecting yourself before sleep. It can be as simple as mindful breathing or as meditative as a slow body scan, traveling with your attention through each part of your body to bring awareness and relaxation. Just focusing on an area can increase blood flow and calm. Personally, once I hit the bed, I’m out—so I rarely body scan—but hey, you do you.

An Evening Stroll

Earlier in the evening, consider a walk—alone or with someone special. It marks the shift from work mode to wind-down. Nature, movement, deep breaths, and genuine connection. It’s grounding. It clears your mental clutter and brings you back to what truly matters. One of my favorite rituals (even if I skip it too often).

Review & Assessments

What did I get done? What wins did I snag today?

Am I on track for my weekly and monthly goals? Sometimes this brings up stress if the day didn’t go as planned, but it’s also the perfect time to pivot. Decide now that tomorrow will be different. Commit. Let the day go. You can’t fix the past, but you can shape what’s ahead. Acknowledge your stress and setbacks—burying them doesn’t work. They grow. Air them out and put them to bed.

Gratitude Journaling

Do you journal? And more importantly, how? Are you simply recording events, or are you refining your day? Looking back and hunting for moments of gratitude shifts your whole perspective. Stress shrinks. Gratitude expands. Oprah's been saying it for years—five things you’re grateful for, every day. Simple. Game-changing.

This practice even affects how your brain stores memories. Glial cells (aka your brain's clean-up crew) clear out toxins and file away memories at night. Poor sleep messes with them. Gratitude journaling primes them for their best work. Highlight the good. Frame it with growth. It sets the tone for deep rest and an inspired next day.

It’s calming, connective, and beautiful. Even our toughest days find their place in a larger, meaningful mosaic. Over time, you see the magic in the mundane. That’s the start of unstoppable gratitude: recognizing life’s blessings in real time. Make it a reflex. Make it a way of being.

What Time’s Bedtime?

Is there a universal bedtime? Maybe not. But chasing hustle by sacrificing sleep is a slippery slope. Arnold Schwarzenegger might say "sleep faster," but let’s be real: four to six hours a night isn’t sustainable. Exhaustion is stealthy. It creeps in, and suddenly you’re sick, snappy, and scattered. For me, late nights lead to low-grade irritation that warps everything—focus, patience, even how I interpret other people.

My sweet spot? Asleep by 10 p.m., no screens after 9. Miss the slowdown window and the momentum barrels through bedtime like a runaway train. But three nights of good sleep in a row? Pure magic. I wake up before the alarm, buzzing with joy, present with my family, soaking in lyrics, emotions, life.

Still, if sleeping seven to nine hours sounds excessive to you, here’s a twist: try biphasic sleep. Historically, before artificial light, people naturally slept in two chunks. Fall asleep shortly after sunset, wake for an hour or so around midnight to journal, pray, connect, then back to bed. Even literature is full of "midnight hours"—not 12 a.m., but the wakeful pause between first and second sleep.

I once had students read a BBC piece called "The Myth of the Eight-Hour Sleep" about this exact phenomenon. Turns out, our so-called "normal" sleep is more a byproduct of industrial age efficiency than health. Take a second look at your sleep style.

These days, if I wake at 3 or 4 a.m. feeling mentally clear, I follow President Russell M. Nelson's advice: I get up, grab a pen, and listen. What comes through often turns into wisdom I share, or even pages of a book.

And sometimes, during a deep healing phase, you might just need 12-14 hours a night. And that's okay. That’s healing. Time feels different when you’re fully present. So slow down, honor time, and gift yourself enough rest to become truly unstoppable.

xoxo,
Groovy Girl

Your body is not separate from your spirit.
Pleasure is not separate from presence.
Sexual energy is not something to be hidden. It’s something to be honored.

✨ Tantra isn't just about sex. It’s about being in relationship with energy.

Your energy. Someone else’s. The divine’s.

There’s classical tantra rooted in Hindu and Buddhist traditions, often involving breath, mantras, rituals, and devotional practice. There’s also Taoist sexual alchemy.

✨ Magick is when you consciously work with sexual energy to shape your reality—casting spells, praying with your body, aligning with intention.

It's not for spectacle. It's for transformation.

And here’s the thing, babe: you don’t need a partner, a guru, or a yoni-egg subscription to access this.

You just need presence.

You just need curiosity.

You just need breath and choice and willingness to come home to yourself.

The real tantra isn’t performative. It’s not aesthetic. It doesn’t need a ring light or a perfect body. It’s intimate. Internal. Sometimes messy. Often mysterious. Always sacred.

So here’s what I’m sitting with:

🌀 What happens when I slow down?
🌀 What does sacred feel like in my body—
not what I’ve been told, but what I know?
🌀 What if I stopped performing pleasure and started communing with it?

Your pleasure is wise.
Your body is holy.
Your energy is enough.

Always has been.

Journal Prompt:
Where have I been waiting for someone else to give me permission to be powerful in my pleasure?

Affirmation:
I don’t perform my sensuality—I embody it.

Let’s get into some spells…🌹

Follow Me, Babe:
A West Coast Love Draw Ritual

Forget the old-school oil blends—here’s a sunset-lit spell for attraction, devotion, and radiant confidence.

What you’ll need:

• A pinch of dried catnip or basil (for allure)

• A little cinnamon (for passion)

• Rose petals or lavender (for love & softness)

• A rose quartz crystal (for heart chakra sweetness)

• A red candle (or pink, if that’s more your vibe)

• A spritz of your favorite natural perfume (you = the oil now)

Ritual:

1. Set the vibe—music, incense, sunlight streaming in.

2. Mix your herbs in a small bowl. Whisper: “Draw in love that honors, sees, and holds me.”

3. Light your candle. Sprinkle the herbs in a circle or heart shape.

4. Hold the quartz over your heart. Say:

“I am the sun on your skin, the song you can’t forget.
[His/Their name], follow the path to my joy.”

Dab your perfume at your neck, wrists, and heart.

Strut through the herb circle or blow a kiss into the flame.

You just became the spell.

Compelling Spell for Truth & Trust 🔮

This one’s for those moments you need clarity, not control—just a little sacred nudge.

You’ll need:

• A purple candle

• Mint tea or dried mint leaves (clarity & truth)

• A white feather (lightness, honesty)

• A journal page with your intention written in gold ink (optional flair)

Ritual:

1. Brew mint tea and sip slowly, grounding into your breath.

2. Light the candle and place the feather beside it.

3. Read your intention aloud:

“Let truth rise like morning light.
May clarity be my companion, and trust our shared path.”

Let the candle burn a while, then safely snuff it out.

Tuck the feather into your journal or somewhere sacred as a reminder of clear communication.

Let Go & Lead 🧿

This is about reclaiming your leadership and soft power.

You’ll need:

• A handful of salt (cleansing + grounding)

• A few drops of lemon juice (energy mover)

• Fresh rosemary or sage (clarity, protection)

• A bowl of warm water

Ritual bath or foot soak:

1. Mix the ingredients in warm water.

2. Soak your feet (or bathe with it) while breathing into your pelvis.

3. Repeat:

“I release the need to prove, push, or persuade.
I lead with rooted grace.
What’s mine returns with ease.”

Let the water dry naturally if you can.

Walk forward knowing your presence is the spell.

💖 New Moon Bonus:
Charm Pouch for Self-Love & Sovereignty

Fill a small fabric pouch with:

• A bay leaf (wish fulfillment)

• A pinch of cinnamon (radiance)

• A shell or piece of sea glass (emotional healing)

• A piece of your own hair (connection to self)

Carry it when you need a boost of “I run this” energy.

Different, right?

xoxo,
Groovy Girl 💋

✨ 5 x 5 MINUTE
MANIFESTATION RITUALS ✨

Welcome to your new era, babe.
You didn’t come here to dabble in the manifestation lifestyle.
You came to glow. To flow. To feel GOOD.
To stop grinding and start aligning.

You’re here because you're DONE hustling from lack.
You're ready to co-create with the universe—with joy, with pleasure, with purpose.

Let’s sync your mindset, your energy, your actions, and your goals.
These 5 five-minute rituals are your new energetic reset buttons.

💡 What Even Is Manifestation?

Let’s keep it grounded.

Manifestation = directing your thoughts, emotions, beliefs, and actions in a way that intentionally attracts what you want into your reality.
You're always manifesting, consciously or not.
This is your invitation to do it on purpose.

Think:
☀️ Law of Vibration — your energy creates your reality
🧲 Law of Attraction — like attracts like
🔥 Law of Inspired Action — do the damn thing (from alignment)

🪄 THE 5-STEP MANIFESTATION METHOD:

1. Know what you want

2. Release resistance

3. Match your vibration

4. Take inspired action

5. Detach + receive

Ready? Let’s ritual.

🔮 RITUAL 1: 369 Intention Setting
(Step 1 – Know What You Want)

🌀 Get clear. Get specific. Get rooted in your “why.”
Write your intention in the present tense. Like this:

“I am so happy and grateful now that I have booked my dream client and feel so aligned in my business.”

Repeat it:

• 3x in the morning

• 6x at midday

• 9x before bed

FEEL it as truth. Embody it. This is the vibe. This is the portal.

✂️ RITUAL 2: Affirm Your Aligned Beliefs (Step 2 – Release Resistance)

You're not “blocked.” You’re just holding onto old stories.

Write out 5 limiting beliefs you catch yourself thinking.
Circle the words that don’t match your dream energy.
Rewrite them into affirmations that do.

Example:

❌ “I’m not good at marketing”
✅ “I am learning to communicate my value with confidence and clarity.”

✨ Carry those affirmations like crystals in your bra. Use them when doubt creeps in. Say:

“I choose differently today.”

🌈 RITUAL 3: Visualize Your Desires
(Step 3 – Match Your Vibration)

Close your eyes. Take a breath. Picture your manifestation unfolding as if it’s already here.

What do you see?
What do you hear?
What does it feel like in your body?

Let your nervous system taste the truth of it. Then say:

“Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.”

🧘‍♀️ BONUS: Ask your intuition after visualizing—

“What’s the next loving step I can take today?”
And trust what you hear—even if it doesn’t “make sense.”

💃 RITUAL 4: Move With Inspired Action
(Step 4 – Do the Aligned Thing)

Manifestation ≠ vision boarding + hoping.
It’s vision boarding + taking the juicy, soul-aligned next step.

Ask:

“What feels exciting, nourishing, or intuitively RIGHT to do next?”
Then… actually do it.

You are not just dreaming—you’re anchoring it into reality.

💓 RITUAL 5: Gratitude Rampage
(Step 5 – Detach + Let It Flow)

Gratitude gets you out of “Where is it?!” mode and into flow.

Try this:
Take a deep breath.
List as many things as you can, out loud, right now, that you’re grateful for.

Start small.

“I’m grateful for my warm bed. For my strong body. For my dreams. For this moment. For my power.”

Then affirm:

“My desires are clear. I surrender the how. I trust divine timing. I am already whole.”

Stay in this energy. You’re magnetic when you’re not gripping.

🌟 Final Thoughts

These rituals are a lifestyle.
A reminder.
A reclamation.

You’re not “too much.” You’re more than enough.
And your desires aren’t random—they’re your soul’s GPS.

Keep playing. Keep trusting. Keep showing up.

✨ You’re already the match. You’re already the vibe. ✨

Let me know how your rituals go—I’d love to hear your magic in action.
Until then, keep manifesting with sass, soul, and zero shame.

xoxo,
Groovy Girl

Mētta is an ancient Pali word that means loving-kindness.
It’s not performative. It’s not about perfection.
It’s a heart-centered practice of unconditional love: for yourself, for others, and even for the ones who are hard to love.

Mētta meditation is one of the simplest, most powerful ways to return to your center, clear your energy, and radiate love outward. It's the energetic version of putting your oxygen mask on first... then lighting up the plane.

So here’s your invitation:
Commit to 365 days of practicing LOVE.

Let’s raise the light and vibration together through this powerful daily ritual.
Our prayers and energy will make the world brighter.

As Jack Kornfield says:

“Go through the day as if you were the Dalai Lama undercover.”

So let’s do that.

🧘‍♀️ The Practice:
Sit in silence. Close your eyes.
Imagine a light coming from a huge, extravagant source.
Let that light move through the top of your head and into your entire body.
Let it fill you. Surround you. Illuminate you.

When you feel that glow inside and out, offer your prayer:

May I be filled with love, kindness, and joy.
May I be safe from inner and outer dangers.
May I be vibrantly healthy: body, energy, spirit.
May I feel deep peace and ease.
May I receive this light of Mētta and be a light to my family, to my friends, and in this world.

Now, see and feel the light around you expand.
Let it become a huge orb of loving energy.
Welcome the ones you love into it.
Your family, your friends, your pets. Even those you love on the other side.
Surround them with your light.

Offer your prayer again:

May YOU be filled with love, kindness, and joy.
May you be safe from inner and outer dangers.
May you be vibrantly healthy—body, energy, spirit.
May you feel deep peace and ease.
May you receive this light of Mētta and be a light to your family, to your friends, and in this world.

Finally, stretch this love even further.
Send the light to people who are hurting.
To those in pain. To those suffering.
Let your compassion reach them.

Offer the prayer one last time:

May YOU be filled with love, kindness, and joy.
May you be safe from inner and outer dangers.
May you be vibrantly healthy—body, energy, spirit.
May you feel deep peace and ease.
May you receive this light of Mētta and be a light to your family, to your friends, and in this world.

✨ That’s it. That’s the practice.
Five minutes. Infinite ripple effect.

Here’s to being undercover Dalai Lamas.
Here’s to loving like it’s our job.
Here’s to light, always.

With love,
Groovy G

When you’re in a flashback, your trauma type is the shape your nervous system takes to try to protect you.

Each type says:

“Let me survive this by doing [X].”

The key to healing isn’t to shame your style.
It’s to understand it—and then stretch into the other styles when needed.

THE FOUR TYPES AT A GLANCE:

Now let’s unpack each one with love, humor, and a healing game plan 💖

🥊 THE FIGHT TYPE: “Control = Safety”

Your trauma response says:

“If I’m the strongest, I’ll never be hurt again.”

In childhood:

• You may have learned to copy the bully to avoid being the target.

• Or were the older sibling who had to parent others and couldn’t show vulnerability.

In adulthood:

• You crave control. Over people, plans, outcomes, yourself.

• You can be charming… until you're not 😬

• You’re quick to anger and slow to apologize.

• Love may feel like a battle. Or a performance.

Your healing path:

• Grieve what happened. Grieve who made you hard.

• Let yourself be soft. Crying is safe now.

• Practice pausing before reacting.

• Learn how to repair, not win.

• Empathy isn’t weakness—it’s superpower unlocked 🧙‍♀️

🌟 Mantra: “Power doesn’t mean dominance. My strength is in staying open.”

🏃‍♀️ THE FLIGHT TYPE: “Productivity = Worth”

Your trauma response says:

“If I keep running, the pain won’t catch me.”

In childhood:

• You learned that love = achievement.

• You may have had anxious or critical caregivers.

• Stillness felt unsafe or lazy.

In adulthood:

• You’re addicted to Doing.

• Hustle mode is your default.

• Your brain won’t shut up. You worry, rehearse, and plan obsessively.

• You crash hard when alone.

Your healing path:

• Rest is not lazy. It’s medicine.

• Meditate even when it makes you twitchy.

• Spend time doing… nothing.

• Get into your body, not just your head.

• Let go of needing to be perfect or “ready” all the time.

🌟 Mantra: “I am worthy even when I’m still.”

❄️ THE FREEZE TYPE: “Numb = Safe”

Your trauma response says:

“If I disappear, nothing can hurt me.”

In childhood:

• You weren’t allowed to fight or flee, so you shut down.

• You may have been the scapegoat or the invisible one.

• Daydreams became your refuge.

In adulthood:

• You zone out. Like, a lot.

• You struggle to name feelings.

• You feel like a ghost in your own life.

• You find people… exhausting.

Your healing path:

• Gentle movement and breathwork every day.

• Connect with safe people regularly (even if just a check-in).

• Say what you feel—even if it’s just “numb.”

• Work with anger: it’s buried aliveness.

• You need grief. Not more sleep.

🌟 Mantra: “I can re-enter life slowly. I am safe here now.”

💌 THE FAWN TYPE: “Pleasing = Protection”

Your trauma response says:

“If I’m useful enough, they won’t leave or hurt me.”

In childhood:

• You had to caretake your caregivers.

• Your needs felt dangerous, so you erased them.

• You learned to read every room like a survival map.

In adulthood:

• You merge with others. Lose yourself in love.

• You say yes when you mean hell no.

• You attract takers and narcissists.

• You’re exhausted from being so “nice.”

Your healing path:

• Name your needs—even just to yourself at first.

• Practice micro-boundaries like “Let me think about it.”

• Learn to say no without apologizing.

• Work on anger—it’s your missing fire.

• You are not mean just because you are clear.

🌟 Mantra: “My needs matter. My voice belongs.”

🧠 NOTE: You’re Probably a Hybrid

Most people are a blend. You might:

• Fawn in love

• Flight at work

• Freeze when overwhelmed

• Fight with yourself in your head
  That’s totally normal. We adapt.

🔄 The Healing Goal:

Not to “fix” your trauma style—but to build flexibility.

The healthiest nervous system is one that can move through all four responses consciously.
That’s when you stop reacting... and start responding.

PART 1: WTF is an Emotional Flashback?!

Understanding it.
You’re not crazy, babe. Here’s what’s really happening in your nervous system.

Breaks down:

• The difference between PTSD flashbacks vs CPTSD emotional flashbacks

• Why CPTSD is so sneaky + confusing

• Metaphors (like the starship!) to help you feel like the Captain, not the casualty

• That sacred aha moment: “Ohhh, it’s not me… it’s my nervous system reactivating” 💡

🧠 This part is all education + normalization.

Think of it as your emotional science lesson with glitter pens.

PART 2: Interrupting the Flashback Storm ⛈️

Managing it in the moment.
Okay, you’re spiraling: let’s get you out of that emotional riptide.

Breaks down:

• How to track your triggers

• How to interrupt spirals with tools (FIFI, pattern disrupts, grounding)

• How to talk yourself through the storm, not drown in it

• State-shifting techniques for when you're in full meltdown-mode

• Journaling, movement, sensory tricks, silly phrases (yes, “banana pants” saves lives) 🍌

🧘‍♀️ This part is all about real-time tools when the sh*t hits the fan.

It's your "emotional emergency kit."

PART 3: CPTSD Self-Care That Actually Prevents Flashbacks

Preventing them before they start.
Let’s build a life that’s flashback-resistant, grounded AF, and juicy with safety.

Will break down:

• Daily regulation rituals (your pre-flight checklist, remember?)

• Managing state like a boss (food, sleep, water, movement, rest, connection)

• How to build inner safety… like turning your nervous system from an alarm bell into a lullaby 🕯️

• Creating a predictable, compassionate inner world that feels nothing like childhood chaos

• Nervous system rituals and sensory sanctuaries

🌿 This is your daily practice zone. Not what to do when it’s bad… its’ what to do when it’s good so it doesn’t get bad.

Let’s get into it, queen! 💗

PART 3: CPTSD Self-Care That Actually Works

aka how to not live on the emotional edge 24/7 🧘‍♀️💗🛸

👑 Let’s get one thing clear:

Self-care for CPTSD is not about bubble baths and matching journals.
It’s about building a life that your nervous system actually feels safe in.

Not just “not triggered.”
But regulated.
Supported.
Predictable.
Held.

That’s the work, queen. And this is how we do it:

🛠️ THE DAILY FLIGHT DECK CHECK

These are the basics. Not glamorous. Not trendy.
But without these? You’re flying blind. Into asteroids. With no snacks.

Check them daily. These are non-negotiable:

🍽️ FOOD

Are you fed? Like really fed.
Not just caffeine and vibes.
Balanced blood sugar = calmer brain. Period.

Vegan and gluten-free can still mean deeply nourishing: think lentils, quinoa, sweet potatoes, and leafy greens. These slow-digesting babes stabilize your blood sugar and feed your brain the steady energy it’s begging for.

Low blood sugar = emotional chaos. Stable fuel = queen mode.

Feed your sparkle, not your stress.

😴 SLEEP

8 hours, babe. No martyr awards for exhaustion.
Exhausted brains can’t regulate. They panic. They spiral.

Honey, slide into 7 – 9 hours of dreamy shut‑eye nightly.

Skimping under 6  hours? You’re about 2.5 times more likely to get caught in those anxious, “can’t-think-straight” loops

💧 WATER

You’re not anxious: you’re dehydrated in a trauma body.
Drink. The. Damn. Water.

Even mild dehydration (just 1–2% of your body weight) can mess with mood, memory, and energy… like, your brain literally shrinks a little.

Plus, your cortisol (stress hormone) spikes higher when you’re low on fluids. Sip like your peace depends on it… because it kinda does. 💦

Your nervous system called. It wants a refill.

🧘‍♀️ STILLNESS

You can’t heal in chaos. You need quiet time.

Phone down. Lights low. Breath deep.

Even 10 minutes of stillness a day can lower cortisol, boost your immune system, and help rewire trauma patterns. Your nervous system isn’t being dramatic—it’s just begging for a moment of safety. Silence isn’t empty, babe. It’s sacred.

Breathe like your soul’s on airplane mode.

🏃‍♀️ MOVEMENT

Shake it out. Walk. Dance. Stretch.

Your body needs to complete stress cycles. Or it stores the stress for later.
(And guess what it comes back as? Yup. A flashback.)

Movement isn’t just fitness—it’s trauma release. Studies show 20–30 minutes of physical activity can flush stress hormones and reboot your mood. Somatic discharge = emotional freedom.

💗 SAFE CONNECTION

Text the friend. Cuddle the pet. Make eye contact with a barista.
We’re wired for co-regulation. You don’t have to do it alone.

Even brief social connection lowers blood pressure and soothes your vagus nerve… the chill-out highway of your nervous system.

Isolation feeds the trauma loop. Connection breaks it.

Let someone’s nervous system remind yours: you’re safe now.

Plant-Powered Recipe of the Week

🌱 Plant-Powered Recipe of the Week
Zesty Chickpea Quinoa Glow Bowl

✨ We’re keepin’ it groovy with last week’s superstar—quinoa—and adding one of my other ride-or-die protein besties: chickpeas. Parsley and lemon bring the zing, plus a hit of vitamin C and anti-methylation magic. Because yes, babe—your food can fight trauma on a cellular level.

Ingredients:

• 1 cup cooked quinoa

• 1 cup canned chickpeas (drained & rinsed)

• 1 cup chopped kale or spinach

• ½ cup shredded carrots

• ½ avocado, sliced

• Handful fresh parsley, chopped

• Juice of 1 lemon

• 1 tbsp tahini

• 1 tsp maple syrup (optional)

• ½ tsp turmeric

• Salt & pepper to taste

Instructions:

1. Toss chickpeas with turmeric, salt, and a splash of olive oil. Roast at 400°F for 20 min (optional for extra crunch).

2. Mix lemon juice, tahini, and maple syrup into a creamy sunshine dressing.

3. Build your bowl: quinoa, greens, carrots, avocado, parsley, and golden chickpeas.

4. Drizzle, toss, and taste the healing.

Why it slaps:
Quinoa + chickpeas = protein dream team.
Parsley + lemon = detox, refresh, protect your DNA.

🧩 STATE MANAGEMENT IS A SKILL,
NOT A VIBE

You’re not at the mercy of your mood.

You are a whole-ass Captain of Consciousness.
You can train your state like a muscle.

Here’s how:

💡 Step 1: Know When You’re Slipping

Flashbacks don’t always start big.

They sneak in.

Start by noticing when you feel:

• Agitated or buzzy

• Checked out or numb

• Helpless, ashamed, paranoid, needy

• Like the world is suddenly Very Dangerous

That’s a cue. Not a flaw.

✨ Step 2: GENTLY Intervene

Try one of these soul stabilizers:

• Touch something cold

• Hug yourself tightly for 30 seconds

• Say: “I’m safe. This is now. I am grown. I have power.”

• Slow your breath: in for 4, hold for 4, out for 6

• Put on a song that soothes you

• Change rooms or sit by a window

• Literally shake your arms out. Like a goose.

🔁 RITUALS MAKE SAFETY REAL

Your body needs proof that safety is your new normal. Not just vibes. Repetition.

Try making one or two of these daily rituals:

• Morning grounding:
  Before checking your phone, put a hand on your chest + say “I choose calm today.”

• Evening deactivation:
  No screens 30 mins before bed. Low lights. Soothing scent. Wrap in softness.

• Midday pause:
  Set an alarm at 2PM that says “Hydrate & Breathe.”

• Journal dump:
  One page, unfiltered. Let the mess out on paper. Then burn it or bless it 🔥

💌 Self-Care Isn’t Cute. It’s Survival.

And for you, it’s also your revolution.
Your refusal to live in freeze/fawn/fight/flight mode forever.

The more consistent you are with these micro-practices, the more trust you rebuild with yourself.

And eventually?
Your system starts whispering:

“Hey… maybe we’re actually safe now.”

That’s when the healing deepens.
That’s when you bloom.

xoxo,
Groovy Girl 🌱💖🌙

Part 1 was the WTF is happening to me?? explainer...

Part 2 is:
🎯 How to track, interrupt, and shift an emotional flashback in real time
aka how to become the grounded space commander of your nervous system 🛸

hey beautiful, here’s your reminder: you don’t have to rush your becoming. you’re allowed to slow down, to rest into your growth. you’re allowed to be unfinished and still feel delight in every soft moment of mending.

✨ whisper these truths whenever you crave softness:

PART 2: How To Interrupt an Emotional Flashback (Like a Groovy Girl 🦋)

🌡️ Step 1: Check the Dashboard (aka Your Emotional State)

Before the spiral starts—daily check-ins. Fuel your spaceship with basics:

• Food 🌮

• Water 💧

• Sleep 😴

• Movement 🏃‍♀️

• Love (connection counts too, boo) 💞

• Quiet time 🧘‍♀️

Ask:
✨ What’s my state right now?
✨ Is this emotional weather... familiar? (hello, old trauma cloud)
✨ Am I responding to this moment—or to a ghost from the past?

📟 Step 2: Learn Your Personal Triggers

CPTSD doesn’t come with a warning light.
But if you tune into your energy shifts, you’ll feel the turbulence coming.

Journal it. Track it.

• What did you feel right before the spiral?

• What situation were you in?

• Who were you around?

• What were you telling yourself?

Flashbacks are often triggered by context, not content.
That’s why a weird look, a busy street, or even silence can set you off. 😵‍💫

🛑 Step 3: Pattern Interrupt Like a Boss

Once you feel the storm rising...

⚡ PAUSE.
⚡ BREATHE.
⚡ INTERRUPT.

Try one of these:

• Say out loud: “I’m in an emotional flashback. This is not me. This is a reaction.”

• Get up. Walk. Dance. Wiggle. Shake out the static.

• Clap your hands. Stomp. Splash water on your face.

• Say something silly: “Banana pants galactic disco!” 🍌👖✨

• Squeeze something cold. Ground into this moment.

  

Don’t wait for it to “go away.”
Meet it with playful power. Shift the vibe intentionally.

🧠 Step 4: Use FIFI (Your Emotional Poodle, duh 🐩)

This is the 4-legged tool that shifts your state fast:
(as introduced in Part 1!)

• F – Focus: What are you focusing on? What’s another thought you could try?

• I – Internal Movie: What mental video is playing? Change the soundtrack. Zoom out.

• F – Physiology: Sit tall. Smile. Move like someone who’s not spiraling.

• I – Inner Voice: Talk to yourself like a queen, not a critic.

Even one leg of FIFI helps. But when you use all four? 💅 You’re unstoppable.

🔁 Step 5: Practice. Not Perfection.

You won’t get it perfect every time, and that’s okay.

But the more you interrupt the spiral—even just a little—the more your brain learns:

“Oh hey, maybe I don’t need to panic this time.”

Healing is repetition. Rewriting. Repatterning.
Not overnight magic. But still, pretty damn magical 💫

✨Plant-Powered Recipe of the Day:
Quinoa Cucumber Fresh Fiesta Bowl✨

Quinoa is a complete protein, meaning it gives you all nine essential amino acids your body can’t make on its own. One cup of cooked quinoa packs about 8 g of protein and 5 g of fiber to keep you full and energized.

Here’s a grab-and-go version you can make in about 15 minutes… no fancy mixing, just toss and eat.

Ingredients (4 servings)

• 2 cups cooked quinoa (chill beforehand)

• 1 can (15 oz) white beans, drained and rinsed* (optional)

• 1 medium cucumber, diced and skin removed

• 3 scallions, thinly sliced

• ½ cup fresh cilantro, roughly chopped

• ¼ cup plain vegan yogurt (for dressing)

• Zest and juice of 1 lime

• 1 clove garlic, minced (or ½ tsp jarred)

• Salt & pepper to taste

Quick Steps

1. In each bowl (or jar), layer:

   • ½ cup quinoa

   • ⅓ cup beans

   • A handful of cucumber

   • Sprinkling of scallions and cilantro

2. In a small cup or jar, stir (or shake) together yogurt, lime zest + juice, garlic, a pinch of salt, and a grind of pepper.

3. Drizzle dressing over each bowl. No big mixing bowl needed, just a quick swirl with your fork.

Note: sometimes, I’ll omit the garlic, yogurt and beans, to keep it as easy as possible on my digestion system with some extra love from the lemon juice — especially helpful if you follow a low-FODMAP diet or are on a cleanse. Quinoa is the real star here!

✨Paradigm Shift: Forgive, Forgive, Forgive…✨

Hey queen, let’s get real for a sec: surviving takes guts and sometimes we do things in survival mode we wish we hadn’t.

Maybe we stayed in love loops that bruised our hearts, shelved our wildest dreams, or shook our heads at our own mistakes. But here’s the juicy truth: forgiving yourself is the magic key to softening that armor and rebuilding your sparkle.

Take a moment each day to tap into these sweet, soul-soothing mantras.

Breathe slow and deep, feel the peacefulness melting into your bones, and let your body remember what softness feels like.

Mantras for Self-Forgiveness
I forgive myself for what I did when
I was in survival mode.

I forgive myself for staying in relationships
that hurt me because I wanted to be loved.

I forgive myself for the choices I made
when I didn’t have the tools to do differently.

I forgive myself for not being there
for me when I needed me the most.

I forgive myself for staying small and not
giving myself a chance to realize my goals and dreams.

I forgive myself for blaming myself
for the actions of other people.

I forgive myself, and I am free.

With super sexy self care and all my love,
Groovy Girl 🦋

Ready for some serious healing? 🧠

We're gonna talk about emotional flashbacks… and how to not let them boss you around anymore.

Do you ever get like: WHAT TF IS THIS FEELING??

Ever just get hit with a wave of dread, shame, fear or sadness... and you have no idea why?

No trigger. No memory. Just BAM.

You're on the floor of your mind again, curled up like a kid who lost her favorite stuffed animal.

That's called an emotional flashback.

Not a movie scene flashback like in PTSD. No visuals. No soundtracks.

Just pure raw emotion.

Like your body remembers something your brain doesn't.
Because honestly?
It does.

What Even Is an Emotional Flashback?

An emotional flashback is when your nervous system says: "Hey, something feels like that time we got emotionally wrecked… let's relive that vibe!"

Except... You don’t remember the moment.
You just feel the same old pain.

⚡ You freeze.

🚪 You wanna run.

😡 You wanna fight.

😞 You wanna people-please.

And the hardest part? You think it’s you. Like:

• "Why am I like this?"

• "Why can't I get over it?"

• "Why does the tiniest thing break me?"

Sweet soul, it's not weakness.

It’s your brain protecting you with the only tools it had when the hurt first happened.

CPTSD Is a Thousand Paper Cuts — Not One Big Knife

Unlike PTSD (which is often from one Big Scary Event), CPTSD comes from a million subtle betrayals.

Emotional neglect. Gaslighting. Being ignored. Being too responsible, too early.

No big explosion. Just... a slow burn.

So instead of remembering what happened, you just feel the emotional residue. And it comes back whenever something even vaguely reminds your system of that time.

Good News: You Can Shift It.

But not by bullying yourself.

Not by gaslighting your own pain.

Not by pretending you're fine.

You shift emotional flashbacks by becoming:

🤠 The badass captain of your own damn starship.

You check your cockpit. You notice the turbulence. You adjust course.

Not because you’re broken.

But because you’re learning to fly better.

Quickie Breakdown:
What to Do When You’re Spiraling

✨ Name It: "This is an emotional flashback."

✨ Don’t shame it: It’s not you.
It’s old you showing up for a hug.

✨ Shift your state

Check your FIFI (your emotional poodle!):

Focus: What are you thinking about?

Internal movie: What image is running in your mind?

Feel your body: What’s your posture? Breath?

Inner voice: Are you speaking gently to yourself?

Daily Check-In To Stay Flyin' Steady

🍎 Food check: Did you eat real stuff today?

🛌 Sleep check: Did you get your 8?

💊 Drug check: Booze, caffeine, weed — all can mess with your vibe.

🏃‍♀️ Movement check: Did you stretch, dance, walk?

💖 Connection check: Did you talk to someone kind?

🎺 Vibe check: Music, colors, lighting, journaling, aromatherapy?

This is self-care with a flight plan.

And When It Hits?

Do less, babe. Not more.

Don't send the text. Don't make the decision. Don't try to fix everything.

Just. Pause. Breathe.

Say: "This is not me. This is an emotional flashback."

You're not regressing. You're not broken. You're reactivating.

So give your nervous system what it needed then: Safety. Calm. Reassurance.

Last Thing:

If you're dealing with emotional flashbacks, it's because your brain tried to protect you the best way it could. And now you're ready to give yourself new tools.

That’s brave AF.

You’re not just surviving anymore. You’re learning to thrive.

And I’m proud of you. 🚀

🌱 Plant-Powered Meal of the Week:
Veggie Vegan Pho

As always, vegan and gluten free! Unlike traditional pho, this doesn’t require any lengthy prep and is always a delicious, easy meal if you have the ingredients around. I usually keep bok choy and rice noodles on hand. You can try other noodle varieties to see what suits your style best!

📝 Ingredients (for ~4 servings)

• 1 tbsp avocado or olive oil

• 1 large yellow onion, halved

• 4 dried shiitakes (~½ cup)

• 5 oz fresh ginger, sliced

• 4 cardamom pods

• 3 star anise

• 2 (3") cinnamon sticks

• 8 whole cloves

• 8 cups vegetable broth (gluten-free)

• 1 tbsp white or dark miso

• 2 tsp soy sauce or tamari

• 1 tbsp sugar (palm, rock, or regular)

• 1 lb rice noodles

• 1 lb fresh shiitake mushrooms (about 4 cups), sliced

• 2 heads baby bok choy, halved

• 1 block (14 oz) soft tofu, cubed

• ½ bunch cilantro, chopped

• ½ bunch Thai basil (about 2 cups)

• ¼ white onion, thinly sliced

• ½ cup scallion greens, sliced

• 4 oz bean sprouts

• 1 jalapeño, sliced

• Lime wedges, extra soy sauce or tamari, vegan sriracha

⏰ Steps

1️⃣ Sauté onion, dried shiitakes, and ginger in oil (4–5 min).
2️⃣ Add cardamom, star anise, cinnamon, and cloves. Stir 1 min.
3️⃣ Pour in broth, miso, tamari, and sugar. Bring to a boil, then simmer 20 min.
4️⃣ Strain: Remove big pieces (onion, ginger, spices) so broth is smooth.
5️⃣ Cook rice noodles separately (~5 min).
6️⃣ Add fresh mushrooms to broth, simmer 2–3 min. Add bok choy, cook 1–2 min.
7️⃣ Serve noodles in bowls, top with broth, mushrooms, bok choy, tofu, and all the fresh toppings.

Paradigm Shift: Before You Caffeinate...

Before you hit that first sip of coffee… pause.

This is your reminder to drink at least 16 oz of water first.

Hydrate that gorgeous body of yours… she just slept for 6+ hours without a single drop! Bonus points if you add a scoop of greens or a squeeze of lemon juice to wake up your cells and give your body some extra energy.

Then move. Yes, before emails, before scrolling, before the to-do list.
Move that energy through you.
Walk. Dance. Stretch. Bike. Lift. Shake it off like you mean it.
Freestyle dance party? Always a yes.

Then?
Make your bed. Look yourself in the mirror and say:
“I choose myself, first.”

And if you want to get magnetic AF…
Breathe. Deep, slow, open-mouth breaths…

Ten of them. In and out.
Let that nervous system chill all the way out.
Let yourself shift from fight-or-flight to rest-and-receive.

Start your day like this and watch how everything aligns.
Your productivity, your clarity, your glow…
it all flows better when you start from you.

Now go slay. ☕💦🧘‍♀️

xoxo,
Groovy Girl 🦋

Hi queen,

Let’s set the record straight:

Manifestation is not day-dreaming until the universe drops a bouquet and a fat check on your doorstep.
That’s passive fantasy.

Manifestation is alignment.

It’s clarity wrapped in courage.

It’s getting crystal clear on what you desire and taking inspired, beautifully messy action.

You’re not wishing… you’re co-creating.

Your soul knows the difference.

Today’s Ritual is your reset button:

🌀 Close your eyes.
🌀 Hand on heart.
🌀 Ask gently:

“What am I deeply craving?”
“What aligned action am I avoiding?”
“What truth about my dreams am I afraid to admit?”

Don’t rush the answers.
Let them emerge.
Let them challenge you.
Let them propel you forward.

You… clear, brave, and aligned… is exactly what the universe has been waiting for.

🌿 Part 2: Plant-Powered Recipe

🥚 Chilled Vegan Tofu “Egg” Salad with Volcanic Salt ✨

She’s creamy. She’s savory. She’s got a secret sulfurous bite… and no eggs were harmed in her creation.

Meet your new obsession: tofu bathed in luscious vegan mayo, laced with black salt (kala namak) for that irresistible “eggy” aroma.

🖤 Let’s get one thing straight: black salt isn’t your average table shaker.
It’s a sulfur-rich mineral that smells like sin but transforms bland tofu into something devilishly convincing. Funky before the mix, magic after. It’s the star of the show and worth it to consider adding it to your vegan kitchen!

Ingredients:

• 1 block firm tofu, pressed

• 1/4 cup vegan mayo

• 1 tbsp Dijon mustard

• 1 tbsp apple cider vinegar or lemon juice

• 1/4 tsp turmeric (for that yolk glow)

• 1/2 tsp black salt (kala namak), or to taste

• 2 green onions, chopped

• 1 stalk celery, finely diced

• 1 tbsp fresh dill or parsley (optional)

• Black pepper to taste

• Paprika, for garnish (if you're feeling spicy!)

Steps:

1. Crumble or dice tofu (your preference; I like it diced) into a mixing bowl; think yummy chunks, not mush.

2. In a separate bowl, whisk mayo, mustard, vinegar/lemon juice, turmeric, and black salt into a silky dressing.

3. Merge dressing with tofu. Fold it in like foreplay: slow, thorough, and with intent.

4. Mix in your veggies, herbs, and a pinch of pepper.

5. Chill for at least 30 minutes. Patience, it intensifies.

6. Taste. Adjust that kala namak if you want. A little goes a long way.

🍽️ Serving Suggestions:

• Spoon it into lettuce cups or sandwich it between two slices of bread.

• Doll it up on cucumber slices or stuff it into cherry tomatoes for a flirtatious bite.

• Sprinkle kala namak just before serving for a final mmm-inducing whisper.

🌀 Part 3: The Science Behind the Magic

A.K.A. Why your brain loves a good manifestation plan!

You’ve heard it: “Focus on what you want and it will come.”

Skeptics roll their eyes, believers nod. Neuroscience backs both camps through a slim bundle of nerves called the Reticular Activating System (RAS).

🔍 Meet Your RAS

As Timothy Wilson explains in the book Strangers to Ourselves, your brain filters the massive flood of sensory information—about 11 million bits per second—down to roughly 50 bits your conscious mind can actually handle.

This powerful filtering process isn't random: it's managed by your brain's Reticular Activating System (RAS), the neurological “gatekeeper” at the top of your brainstem deciding what enters your conscious awareness.

Whatever you tag as “important” gets VIP access.

Buy a Jeep → suddenly, Jeeps everywhere.
Dream of Lisbon → cue five random Portuguese run-ins.

Coincidence? Nope. Your RAS just tuned the dial.

🛠 Train Your RAS, Shape Your Reality

1. Clarify — vague goals make vague results.

2. Visualize — daily, vivid, emotional.

3. Mind your words — “I’m figuring it out” beats “I can’t.”

Positive thinking isn’t pixie dust. It’s selective attention. Prime your RAS and you’ll spot the email, chat or gut nudge that moves the needle.

Here’s how:

Self-talk trains the brain 24 / 7.

Your brain is a garden, and your thoughts plant the seeds.

The Reticular Activating System (RAS) is the physical part of your brain that is actively deciding what blossoms into your lived experience.

You hold the power: tend to your internal landscape with intention, kindness, and fierce clarity.

Let’s break down the steps from earlier.

✨ 1. Clarify

Vague dreams yield vague realities.
Your soul desires specifics, a clear north star to guide your subconscious.
Shift from ambiguous hope to crystalline intention.

Instead of saying, "I want a meaningful career," declare boldly, "I lead a creative team in sustainable design."

Make your dream detailed, precise and vividly alive.

✨ 2. Visualize

Invite your dreams into your daily rituals.

Immerse your senses fully: see the joyful faces of your team, smell the aroma of fresh-brewed tea in meetings, feel the textures of fabrics and materials beneath your fingertips.

Infuse your vision with emotion, passion and delight. Your RAS thrives on sensory and emotional depth, transforming these internal images into tangible reality.

✨ 3. Mind Your Words

Each word is a spell, casting intentions into the fabric of your being.

The language of self-belief reshapes your neural pathways. Trade disempowering words for phrases of growth.

Replace “I can’t” with “I’m figuring it out,” “I’m stuck” with “I’m exploring new solutions.”

Your inner dialogue is sacred self-leadership, a 24-hour conversation shaping your destiny.

🌉 Where Intuition Meets Evidence

Manifesting is less abracadabra and more brain-plus-behaviour in sync.

Clarity fuels attention, attention fuels action, action fuels outcomes… simple and powerful.

You can flip the switch.

AFFIRMATIONS TO REWIRE YOUR REALITY

Read these slowly. Out loud. Or whisper them to your coffee, your cat, your reflection. Let them sink in. Choose the ones that light you up. Repeat them until you believe them.

💖 SELF-LOVE + MINDSET

• I am a QUEEN.

• I make my own rules.

• It’s safe to trust myself.

• I don’t need to be perfect to be worthy.

• I deserve the best.

• I can do hard things.

• Messy action is still action.

• My potential is limitless.

• I am allowed to rest without guilt.

• I love myself deeply.

• My feelings are valid.

• I am constantly evolving.

💸 MONEY + LOVE

• Money loves me.

• The more fun I have, the more money I make.

• I allow myself to desire money.

• Saving money is sexy.

• I am worthy of wealth just by being me.

• I get to have everything I want.

• I am open to unexpected income.

• I am allowed to make money and be a good person.

• Money is a tool for magic.

🔥 MONEY + BUSINESS

• The Universe loves co-creating with me.

• My work is worthy of massive compensation.

• Soulmate clients find me easily.

• Launching my offerings is fun and easy.

• People love to pay me.

• I circulate money with ease.

• I make ___ per month with pleasure and purpose.

• It’s safe to pivot.

• Money is always flowing to me.

Write these. Say these. Feel these.

Let them rewire your nervous system. You don’t have to believe them fully yet. Just practice believing. Let that be enough.

TRUST THE PROCESS

Stop rushing. There is no deadline on your dream.

You are not late. You are not behind.

You are exactly where you’re meant to be, learning the exact lessons your future self needs to know.

💫 Be in the frequency of the life you desire.
💫 Take action from that frequency.
💫 The rest will come.

And remember: what’s meant for you will not pass you.

🔔 Coming in July: Feel It to Heal It

A gentle four-part series, arriving every Sunday at 4:20pm:

• Part 1 – WTF Is This Feeling?
  Name it, normalize it, and learn how to sit with it.

• Part 2 – Emotional Triggers
  Break the loop. Reclaim calm. Map your trigger patterns.

• Part 3 – CPTSD Self-Care
  Science-backed rituals to soothe your nervous system and spark joy.

• Part 4 – Know Your Trauma Type
  Understand your trauma blueprint, without five-hour therapist lingo.

Think psychology, not pseudoscience, served in bite-size uplifting doses. Mark your calendar, bring your journal and let’s grow together.

What will you train your brain to notice today?

xoxo,
Groovy Girl 🦋

Being real is the new black.
Being honest is the new sexy.
And truth? Truth is liberation.

We’ve all been conditioned to polish the edges.
Say we’re fine when we’re crumbling.
Pretend we’re healed when we’re hurting.
Smile politely when our inner no is screaming.

But your soul?
She always knows when you're lying.

Lying to others is one thing.
Lying to yourself? That’s when the ache sets in.
The dissonance.
The disconnection.
The numb.

Today's ritual is a reclamation:
You. In truth. With love.

🌀 Close your eyes.
🌀 Hand on heart.
🌀 Ask gently:
“What am I pretending not to know?”
“What truth have I been too afraid to tell myself?”
“What am I ready to admit, even if it unravels my image?”

Now breathe.
Don’t rush to fix.
Let it sting.
Let it soften.
Let it realign.

The real you…
unpolished, radiant, raw..
is what we’ve all been waiting for.

🌱 Plant-Powered Recipe of the Day: 🌱
Soul‑Reckoning Plantain Bowl

I discovered an amazing recipe from Café Réveille, where I had a delicious vegan + gluten free bowl of plantains with mole, black beans, and pickled cabbage.

A harmony of sweet, smoky, sour…

Let’s recreate that magic 🌟

Ingredients

• 2 ripe! plantains, peeled & sliced diagonally

• 1 can black beans, drained + warmed

• ½ cup mole sauce (homemade *recipe below!* or store-bought)

• 1 cup shredded red cabbage, quick‑pickled with lime juice, salt, pinch sugar

• 1 cup fresh diced tomatoes

• 1 cup cooked quinoa, rice, or brown rice

• 1 avocado, sliced (optional)

• Fresh cilantro & lime wedges for finishing

Pickled Cabbage Quick‑Tip:
Combine cabbage, juice of 1 lime, pinch salt + sugar.
Massage, let sit while prepping the bowl.

Instructions

1. Cook the rice or quinoa; set gentle intention to nourish.

2. Fry or roast plantains:

   • Heat skillet with oil, fry slices until crispy-golden on each side.

3. Heat black beans with a swirl of mole. Let them soak in the smoke + depth.

4. Assemble: bed of rice; layered with mole beans; crown of plantains; pickled cabbage; fresh tomatoes; avocado.

5. Finish with cilantro, a squeeze of lime, and savor.

This bowl channels the sexy contrast of soft plantain, smoky mole, tangy cabbage, creamy avocado and the grounding weight of rice.

EXTRA RECIPE: Homemade Vegan Mole Sauce

Ingredients:

• 2 tablespoons: olive oil, raisins

• 1 tablespoon: unsweetened cocoa powder

• 2 tablespoons: chili powder

• 1 teaspoon: ground cinnamon

• ½ teaspoon each: ground cumin, dried oregano

• ¼ teaspoon: ground cloves

• 1 onion, chopped

• 3 cloves garlic, minced

• 1 cup vegetable broth

• 1 can (14 oz) fire-roasted tomatoes

• ¼ cup almond butter

• Salt and pepper to taste

Instructions:

1. Heat olive oil in a saucepan over medium heat. Sauté onion and garlic until fragrant.

2. Add chili powder, cocoa powder, cinnamon, cumin, oregano, and cloves. Stir and cook for 1 minute until spices are aromatic.

3. Pour in vegetable broth and fire-roasted tomatoes. Bring to a gentle simmer.

4. Add almond butter and raisins. Stir to combine thoroughly.

5. Simmer on low heat for 15-20 minutes, stirring occasionally.

6. Blend until smooth, season with salt and pepper to taste.

Your homemade vegan mole sauce is ready to elevate your bowl! Enjoy ✨

✨ Paradigm Shifter: Truth Is the New Ritual 🌘

Let’s stop decorating the cage.

You can sage your house, align your chakras, speak your affirmations under moonlight in your finest silk robe… but babe, if you're lying to yourself, none of it sticks.

You can’t manifest clarity while clinging to camouflage.

Here’s the thing about truth: it’s not always gentle.
Sometimes it shows up barefoot, banging pots, flipping your neat little identity table. Not to punish you… but to free you.

Your truth might be messy.
It might undo the story.
It might disappoint the people who only knew the mask.
But oh, it will liberate you.

🜃 Today’s invitation isn’t about being palatable.
🜃 It’s about being honest.

Even if your voice quivers.
Even if the mirror blinks back in silence.
Even if you have no clue what happens after the unraveling.

Sit with it.
Not the curated version… the wild, tangled, naked truth.
The part of you that doesn’t need to be explained. Or marketed. Or understood.

As Alan Watts said:
“You are under no obligation to be the same person you were five minutes ago.”

So stop gripping the lie you’ve outgrown.

Be brave enough to say:
“I don’t know.”
“I changed my mind.”
“This no longer fits.”
“I want more.”

Let it wreck the persona.
Let it wreck the performance.
Let it wreck the rules.

Because what comes after the wreckage… is you.

The real you.
Unbranded. Unmarketed. Unfaked.
A walking permission slip for others to be the same.

With unfiltered love and a fire for freedom,
Groovy Girl 🦋

The same body that held your heartbreak.
That clenched through trauma.
That hid in shame.
That braced itself against rejection.
That never stopped showing up.

We hold so much in the tissues.
Pain, memory, longing.
Here’s the golden truth:

The body remembers. But it can also forgive.

Forgiveness is not forgetting.
It’s alchemizing.
It’s placing your hands over your belly and whispering,
“You’re safe now.”
It’s choosing softness where you once armored.

Redemption isn't about proving your worth.
It’s about returning to the sacred YES that lives under all the NOs your body had to scream.

So today…

Before you rush into your tasks—

Take 10 minutes.
Lie down.
Place one hand on your heart, one on your womb or belly.
Breathe.
Feel.

Whisper:
“I forgive myself for all the ways I thought I had to survive.”
“I forgive the world for what it did not know.”
“I allow healing in now.”

And then, feed your forgiveness.

Let’s make…

🌱 Plant-Powered Recipe of the Day:
Redemption Oats (Overnight Gut-Healing Delight)

A bowl of peace. A spoonful of presence.

Ingredients

• ½ cup gluten-free rolled oats

• 1 tbsp chia seeds

• 1 tbsp hemp hearts

• 1 tsp flaxseed meal

• 1 cup non-dairy milk (almond, coconut, or oat)

• 1 tsp vanilla extract

• 1 tbsp maple syrup (or date syrup)

• Pinch of cinnamon

• Optional: pinch of sea salt, a few drops of rose water

Toppings (morning of):

• Sliced banana or berries

• A dollop of coconut yogurt

• Sprinkle of cacao nibs or crushed walnuts

• Extra drizzle of maple love

Instructions
In a mason jar or bowl, combine oats, seeds, milk, vanilla, maple, cinnamon.
Stir with intention.
Seal and let it rest overnight in the fridge…
like your body, it softens over time.

In the morning, top with fruit, crunch, and whatever makes you energized!

Savor slowly. Let your breakfast be a ritual of rebirth.

✨ Paradigm Shifter ✨

Healing happens in small, repeated acts of softness.
Not in perfection.
But in your return to yourself… again and again.

Redemption lives in your gentleness.
Forgiveness lives in your breath.
And your body… she’s still listening.

Offer her something beautiful today.

With radical softness and sensual grace,
Groovy Girl 🦋

P.S. A little love note from me to you: It’s been a minute—thank you for sticking around. 💕💓💗💖

What started as a 30-day health challenge has grown into so much more. I’ve removed the paywalls from older posts, so go revisit your favorite recipes and get inspired! Our channel is staying vegan + gluten-free, always. 💗

Fresh content is on the way every week at 4:20 pm, with even more in the works as our community grows. Get ready for all the goodness—self-help, healing, mindfulness, manifesting, and abundance mindsets are coming your way.

From the very bottom of my heart—thank YOU for being here, my love! 💖

We flood our brains with dopamine. You know this.

But did you know it means…

• You’ll need higher levels of stimulation to feel the same as before

• Your motivation will drop the next day

• You’ll feel less equipped to deal with difficult things

A healthy brain is powered by daily habits!

Let’s dive in:

Daily Habits for a Healthy Life

1. Sunlight before screen light

Studies show that lack of sunlight causes a major dip in dopamine levels.

Just 2 mins of being outside upon waking will help you feel alert!

Habits:

• No phone! Don’t check your phone for 30 mins after waking up.

• Find something to do immediately, instead, such as prayer, making coffee, meditation, or your morning shower routine.

• Go for a 5 min morning walk outside to feel the sunlight.

2. Follow a low glycemic diet - Cut down on refined sugars

Avoid foods put blood sugar levels on an unpredictable roller-coaster.
Hint: sugar will affect your mood!

Habits:

• Maintain a healthy balance of nutrients through vegetables (and supplement it with herbs regularly!)

• Increase your protein intake earlier in the day and drop down at night

• Avoid buying processed food. If they are not in your home, you won’t feel so tempted to eat it.

3. Optimize your sleep

Consistent lack of (or low-quality) sleep will tank your energy levels.

Optimize your schedule around 7-9 hours a night.

Habits:

• Limit caffeine after 4pm

• Wake and sleep at the same time each day to build a routine

• Limit screen time before bed; charge your phone in another room

• Keep the temperature around 70ºF at night, or use a cooling mattress

• Try blackout shades

4. Score your day with music

Music is powerful. It can enhance your mood and focus, lower your blood pressure and stress, and improve sleep.

A slower tempo (between 60-80 bpm) is ideal for brain health.

Habit:

• Create mood playlists for different moments of your day (e.g., wake up, deep work, creative flow, wind down, sensual time, bed time)

• Find artists you like and listen to their full sets on SoundCloud or YouTube

5. Move your body daily

Just 10 minutes of aerobic exercises can spark an improvement in mood.

The strongest effects are felt after 30 minutes.
(This can be said about our next one, too…)

Habits:

• Put your workout clothes near your bed the night before

• Pre-pay for fitness classes on a monthly basis to create loss aversion

• Pack a Foldable Yoga Mat or Resistance Band when you travel

• Buy high-quality gear that makes you feel good while you work out so that you create positive associations in your brain

6. Start a meditation practice

When I stayed at a monastery in Thailand, I learned from the monks there that this can come in many forms! Sweeping the floor is a meditation practice, as long as you are mindful of every moment, every sweep.

Try a walking meditation. Standing is one, too. Meditation can come in the form of dance as long as you are bringing awareness to your body in space (aka proprioreception).

The goal is to clear your mind of all clutter, focus inward, and allow your thoughts to come and go.

Habits:

• Block out 10 mins on your calendar each morning and aim to increase it to 30 minutes at least once a week, then set a goal for an hour.

• Listen to a guided meditation if you have trouble focusing. Prayer and chating (Om Mani Padme Hum) also works. Join a Hare Krishna group if you prefer meditative movement or an Ecstatic Dance event.

7. Stay hydrated

Water makes up 75% of brain mass.
Even a slight dip in hydration levels will quickly impact your brain health.

Your neurons can’t run efficiently if you’re not hydrated.

Habits:

• Keep a (LARGE!) 32oz water bottle next to your bed, and drink it all as soon as you wake up

• Refill it, and then keep it on your desk

8. Focus on micro-moments of happiness

Pay attention to the joy you get from an out-of-the-blue text, a podcast, a sip of coffee, a workout. They compound.

Habits:

• Start a list in your phone called “the little things.”

• Add 3 more moments that made you thankful every evening.

Feeling good doesn’t require life-changing milestones.

Dearest darling,

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You will start making better choices 
because you now actually do have choices. 

And then your actions will begin to change on their own. 

When those changes happen on the outside, 
more buried feelings about yourself will begin to come up. 

It’s a cycle of healing in which you are continually clearing out 
obsolete beliefs about yourself 
and the world 
by learning more about what makes you who you are.

With all my love,
Groovy Girl ✨

It's time to break free from the chains of body insecurities that hinder your pleasure and connection. Let’s say goodbye to those nagging thoughts about cellulite, stomach shape, or how you look from certain angles.

They are robbing you of the fulfilling experiences you deserve, baby!

It's time to unleash the power of self-acceptance and reclaim your sensuality.

Imagine a world where you no longer let society's unrealistic standards define your worth. Through your authentic self, you can unlock a whole new level of confidence and connection. Picture yourself radiating with self-love, unafraid to explore and enjoy the joy that life has to offer.

But how do you get there?

Start by embracing self-care rituals that nourish your mind, body, and soul. Challenge societal norms that dictate narrow beauty ideals and celebrate the unique beauty of your own body. Open up honest conversations with your partner(s), building a safe haven for vulnerability and acceptance.

Remember, you have the power to rewrite your narrative.

Practice mindfulness techniques to anchor yourself in the present moment, immersing yourself in the sensations that truly matter. With each step, you'll find yourself shedding the chains of insecurity and stepping into a world where pleasure, love, and connection flow effortlessly.

Say yes to pleasure, yes to love, and yes to connection. You deserve it all, just as you are.

Join the movement of empowered individuals who have reclaimed their sensuality. Break free from the shackles of body insecurities and embrace a world of unapologetic pleasure. Let your authentic self shine and savor the transformative experiences that await you.

Claim your right to pleasure, love, and connection.
It's time to come as you are and revel in the joy that awaits.

Plant-Powered Recipe of the Day:

The Best Vegan Gluten-Free Pancakes

Ingredients

• 1 medium ripe banana (brown and spotty preferred)

• 1 1/2 tablespoons olive, avocado, or melted coconut oil (plus a little more for cooking)

• 1 1/2 tablespoons maple syrup (Grade A recommended)

• 2 teaspoons baking powder

• 1/4 teaspoon sea salt

• 1 - 1 1/4 cups non-dairy milk (plain unsweetened almond milk recommended)

• 3/4 cup gluten-free oat flour* (grind from rolled gluten-free oats)

• 3/4 cup gluten-free flour blend (DIY blend recommended)

• 1/4 cup almond flour (not almond meal, or substitute more gluten-free blend)

• 1/4 cup vegan dark chocolate chips or fresh or frozen fruit (optional)

Instructions

1. In a mixing bowl, mash the banana. Then add oil, maple syrup, baking powder, and salt. Whisk to combine.

2. Add non-dairy milk (start with the lesser amount and adjust as needed) and whisk to combine. If using coconut oil and it hardens or clumps, microwave it for 45 seconds to 1 minute to remelt.

3. Add oat flour, gluten-free flour, and almond flour. Gently stir to combine, being careful not to over-mix. The batter should be thick but pourable/scoopable. Adjust the consistency by adding more gluten-free or almond flour if too thin, or a little more non-dairy milk if too thick.

4. If desired, fold in vegan dark chocolate chips or fresh/frozen fruit.

5. Heat a large nonstick skillet, griddle, or cast-iron skillet over medium heat. Rub the skillet with a little oil. Adjust the heat to medium-low/low once it's hot to prevent burning the pancakes.

6. Spoon 1/4 - 1/3 cup of batter onto the skillet. Cook until the surface of the pancakes has bubbles and the edges appear dry (around 2-3 minutes). Carefully flip the pancakes and cook until browned on the underside (around 3 minutes more). Adjust the cooking time as needed for a nice golden brown color.

7. Transfer the cooked pancakes to a baking sheet or plate, avoiding stacking them on top of each other. Keep them warm in a 200°F (94°C) oven.

8. Continue cooking the remaining batter, making approximately 12 pancakes.

9. Serve the pancakes on their own or with toppings such as additional fruit, chocolate chips, peanut butter, or maple syrup.

10. Store cooled leftover pancakes (without toppings) in a container separated with wax or parchment paper to prevent sticking. They can be refrigerated for up to 4 days or frozen for up to 1 month. Reheat in the toaster oven, microwave, or oven until hot.

Enjoy your delicious gluten-free vegan pancakes!

Paradigm Shift: Pleasure Practice

After stepping out of the shower, take a moment to dry off and indulge in a blissful ritual of self-care.

Grab your beloved oil—coconut or almond are my personal favorites—and lovingly massage it onto your skin.

Embrace the nakedness and stand before a mirror, directing your focus to all the aspects of your body that you cherish.

I know it can be challenging, so, approach this as a gentle, meditative practice. Keep redirecting your thoughts to the things you genuinely love.

You might discover that the very same features you once deemed as imperfections are also the ones you adore. This is a moment of empowerment, an opportunity to rewrite the narrative around these aspects that you've previously rejected. Embrace them as your unique identifiers, the beautiful elements that make you authentically human.

As you apply the oil, relish in the tactile pleasure of feeling your body with your hands, not just observing it with your eyes. This is your chance to truly connect with and love yourself.

When the time comes to dress up, don your favorite attire without hesitation. You deserve to adorn yourself in garments that make you feel incredible. Embrace the transformation and let your inner radiance shine through.

Voila!

with super sexy self-care and all my love,
Groovy Girl 🦋

No more projecting onto the masculine around us...

No more blaming them for not taking out the trash...

No more seeking validation through their eye contact or attention...

Today, we make a conscious choice to remember:

"My feeling state is entirely within my control."

And then, we ask ourselves:

"How do I truly want to feel?"

These two profound steps hold the key to our liberation.

"My feeling state is entirely within my control."

"How do I truly want to feel?"

And with sheer conviction, we will lead ourselves to that desired emotional realm.

By embracing this approach, we bestow upon the masculine the greatest gift of all: FREEDOM.

As we embody the love that resides within us, as we become a living manifestation of our desired emotions, we transcend limitations and inspire transformative change.

We’re cooking up more content about relationships, stay tuned for more.

Plant-Powered Recipe of the Day: Cashew L8R

Cashew Crema

This recipe is a crowd-pleaser and incredibly easy to make. Cashew Crema is a versatile delight that can elevate any dish! Say goodbye to mayo, creamy dressings, sour cream, yogurt sauces, and white sauce. If you're like me and prefer dairy-free options, this dressing will become your new best friend. The best part? It's a homemade gem you won't find in stores.

Save some cash by purchasing broken cashews instead of whole ones, as you'll be blending them anyway. Let's appreciate the hard work of the dedicated cashew pickers who hand-harvested and prepared each nut.

CASHEW CREMA INGREDIENTS:

• 1 pound of raw cashew nuts (approximately 2 cups)

• 1/2 tablespoon of coarse salt

• 1/2 cup of Olive Oil or Avocado Oil

• Juice from 2-4 lemons or limes

OPTIONAL ADD-INS:

• Small package of fresh dill, thyme, rosemary, cilantro, or parsley

• 1-2 heads of garlic

• 1/4 cup of nutritional yeast

• Bragg's Liquid Aminos (to taste)

HOW TO MAKE IT:

1. Place cashews in a large jar and cover them with water. Let them soak for 8 hours or overnight in the refrigerator. (You can skip this step and use boiling water for 30 minutes if you have a high-powered blender such as a Vitamix).

2. In a powerful blender or food processor, combine all ingredients except the cashews. Blend until you achieve a delicious oily mixture.

3. Drain the soaked cashews and add them to the blender. Pour in just enough filtered water to just cover the cashews.
   (Consistency is key here! 😉)

4. Blend on high until the mixture becomes super smooth. You may need to scrape down the blender or add more water to facilitate blending.

5. Taste the cashew crema and adjust the salt or nutritional yeast if desired. Blend well after making any additions.

6. Transfer the creamy mixture into an airtight container and refrigerate. As it chills, the Cashew Crema will thicken, making it perfect for a range of creamy dressings.

7. Get creative! This Cashew Crema serves as an excellent base for any creamy dressing. For a Caesar dressing, try adding more garlic and lemon juice. If you prefer a Mexican dressing, incorporate onion and cilantro.

Enjoy experimenting with different flavors and discovering your favorite variations of this fabulous Cashew Crema!

Paradigm Shift

You don’t get soft surrender on a bed in Paris with the man of your dreams by staying in the hamster wheel of your own closure 🐯💓👑

You get it by opening beyond belief,

Especially when you don’t want to

By unwinding your trauma loops,

By being honest,

By being kind,

By listening to your gut feelings,

By trusting the oracle of your heart,

By calling him higher,

By being called into more,

By softening when you want to harden,

By welcoming the unknown,

By inviting him closer,

By getting more vulnerable than you’d imagine,

By letting him in,

By embodying the one,

By choosing again,

By practicing love.

with super sexy self-care and all my love,
Groovy Girl 🦋

I’d rather regret the things I have done than the things that I haven’t.

- Lucille Ball

Pay attention to your thoughts, because they become words.

Pay attention to your words, because they become actions.

Pay attention to your actions, because they become habits.

Pay attention to your habits, because they become your character.

Pay attention to your character, because it is your fate.

These words of wisdom come from the Judaic Talmud.

How do these words resonate with you?

Are you practicing awareness of your own thoughts, actions, habits, before they become patterns that “you simply can’t change”?

Our old notions of an unchanging brain are being revised with new discoveries about neurogenesis — the brain forming new neurons — and neuroplasticity (especially with the use of psychedelics!)

Pay attention to your heartbeat, your breath, the sincerity of your eyes when you smile, that little crease in between your eyebrows that furrow with passion/confusion/introspection.

What is your body telling you? Do you notice the subtle signs?

Are you listening to the moments when your body communicates with you
(also known as biofeedback)?

Practice these affirmations:
Radiating presence, a continuous quest to grow,
Embracing truth's essence, a relentless inner flow.
Through career paths and changes, relationships anew,
My principles ground me, revealing life's true hue.

Plant-Powered Recipe of the Day

Soulful Minestrone Magic

Ingredients:

• 4 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil

• 2 small onions, chopped

• 3 celery stalks, chopped

• Large piece of fresh Turmeric, minced or grated

• 1 head of garlic, minced

• 1 pound potatoes, cut into bite-size pieces

• 28-ounce can of crushed tomatoes (fire-roasted for that extra zest)

• 1 cup chopped fennel (including stalks, fronds, and bulb)

• 1/4 bunch of Italian parsley, chopped

• 1 small bunch fresh Basil, chopped

• 15-ounce can of Butter beans or Fava beans, rinsed & drained

• 15-ounce can of Cranberry beans or Red kidney beans, rinsed & drained

• Half a 15-ounce can of Chickpeas, rinsed & drained

• Water

• Salt

Instructions:

1. In a large pot, heat the extra-virgin olive oil over medium heat. Add the chopped onions and celery. Sauté until they turn translucent and fragrant, creating a flavorful foundation.

2. Incorporate the minced or grated Turmeric, infusing the soup with its vibrant hue and potent goodness. Stir it gently, letting the aroma unfold.

3. Toss in the minced garlic, releasing its aromatic essence into the pot. Savor the fragrant dance of flavors.

4. Add the bite-sized potatoes, offering substance and heartiness to your minestrone. Let them mingle with the other ingredients, absorbing the essence of the soup.

5. Open the can of crushed tomatoes and pour them into the pot, allowing their rich, fire-roasted essence to enhance the base. Be mindful not to drain the can, as the velvety texture of the tomatoes adds depth to each spoonful.

6. Introduce the chopped fennel, infusing a touch of delicate anise-like notes. Let it intermingle, creating harmonious layers of taste.

7. Sprinkle the chopped Italian parsley and fresh Basil into the pot, adding their verdant essence and herbal undertones to the medley.

8. Time to invite the beans to the party! Add the rinsed and drained Butter beans or Fava beans, along with the Cranberry beans or Red kidney beans. These legumes bring substance, protein, and a delightful textural contrast to the soup.

9. Include half a can of rinsed and drained Chickpeas, bestowing a nutty creaminess and further enriching the minestrone experience.

10. Pour enough water into the pot to cover the ingredients, allowing them to swim in a nourishing broth. The precise amount will depend on your desired consistency, so adjust accordingly.

11. Sprinkle a pinch of salt, enhancing the flavors and bringing out the best in each ingredient. Taste as you go and adjust the seasoning to your preference.

12. Bring the pot to a gentle boil, then reduce the heat to low. Cover and let it simmer for about 30-40 minutes, allowing the flavors to meld together in a comforting symphony.

13. Serve your soulful Minestrone Magic in bowls, garnished with a sprinkle of fresh herbs or a drizzle of extra-virgin olive oil. Pair it with crusty bread or a side salad for a complete, satisfying meal.

14. Take a moment to savor the nourishing goodness and the labor of love that went into creating this heartwarming bowl of minestrone soup. Enjoy each spoonful and let it nourish your body and spirit.

Note: Feel free to customize your minestrone by adding other vegetables, herbs, or spices that resonate with your taste buds. Make it your own and

This recipe is inspired by Jazmin Hupp, former CEO of the women-in-cannabis networking group, Women Grow, and also a big source of inspiration for me! She went from full business-badass to burning man babe to yogi in a few years.

Paradigm Shift

If it wasn't safe for you to express yourself + your emotions as a child, life will find a way to make it unsafe now 🥵

Why?

Well, God is SO giving in that way! 😉

Always trying to get you to see the past..

👉🏼 So you can meet your little one and heal... once and for all.

But if you're anything like me, you don't think you've got a big expression snafu at all.

In fact... you speak your needs to your partner and show up for your audience like it's your destiny on the regular.

Expression is practiced and it's played with as a norm.

But even you are susceptible...

To one day...

Finding the freeze 🥶

It happens to us all - whether regularly or in those karmic moments that blindside you into collision and…then…you crash.

For instance: your partner does (or doesn't do!) that one thing... or a client says the thing that you were so afraid they'd one day say...

And then bam. You're like a baby. Frozen in expression.

Feeling like you can't and don't know which way to turn. (Sound familiar?)

You might utter a word or two, you might walk away "fine."

But you know you're not.

You know something inside... is staying inside...

And right there...

That's the moment that can bring you back to the very memory you experienced early on... that wants your attention and care.

And you best explore it.

Because you're an adult now.

And adults express how they feel, and what's alive for them. With care and consideration for the other.

It's how we move energy and align with life.

Adults craft their own safety.

Adults make it safe themselves.

Just like you can build your own furniture, you can build your own internal fortress.

You can find the strength you need within.

And from that strength, you can love the inner child within you that needs to be nurtured and cared for.

You can look back at your younger self and imagine yourself holding her, telling her “I understand that you were helpless and no one was there for you. I have compassion for your pain. I believe that you are hurt.”

And from there, you can begin to heal.

With super sexy self care and all my love,
Groovy Girl 🦋

It is meant to be a unique relationship, a fingerprint, a thread that explains the energetic signature of every co-creation we “call into” our lives…

In my opinion, we don’t become « good » at manifestation…

It isn’t something we learn to “DO”.

It is something we take ownership of… as something we HAVE BEEN DOING.

My intuition has always led me to listen to others who have built a powerful relationship with manifestation, to be curious and open-minded about how they understood it, and utilized that understanding for themselves, AND then run those understandings through my own awareness, understanding, and process…

I felt a deep knowing that the key wasn’t to try to duplicate what I was hearing… but rather to cultivate my unique understanding of it all so it could “be correct” for me… so I would never lose myself in someone else’s way of thinking.

I made sure to ask myself: what is my opinion, what are my thoughts, what adjustments feel necessary to be made here for this to be mine?

I believe manifestation is a complex discussion that unfolds over a person’s lifetime. I don’t know that it’s possible to simply learn techniques and then manifest a house, a boat, a car…

My intuition has always felt that this is actually about our individual understanding of the relationship we have with ourselves, with spirit, the divine, the unknown…

And that magic manifests throughout the path of that understanding…

Practice the following affirmations with me.

Having it all means having it ALL….
Holding it all…
No matter what…
Not just as long as it’s easy…

Not just as long as you’re understood…
Not just as long as it works…
Not just as long as you’re happy…

Always, all ways.
Through it all…

It means celebrating on hard days,
And bouncing back from tough moments on good days,

It means standing tall after a wobble,
It means dancing as the storm passes,

It means knowing you’ll be ok,
Because you are strong,

Because you’re unbreakable, unstoppable…
Because you’re you,

Because you’re the only one who can do this for you,
Because you deserve this,
Because you’re worthy, you were born worthy and nothing has changed,
Because any hard times… aren’t the full story…

They’re just a chapter,
In the book of your extraordinary life.

You were born for this.
The full story is already written in the stars.
Let’s claim that.

Plant-Powered Recipe of the Day: Golden Milk

Golden Milk for 2

• 1 ½ tsp ground Turmeric or 2 tablespoons grated Turmeric root

• 1/4 tsp ground Ginger or 1 teaspoon freshly grated Ginger (optional)

• 1 tablespoon Coconut Oil or Almond Oil

• 1 pinch ground Black Pepper (activates the curcumin in turmeric!)

• 3 cups "Milk" of your choice

• Sweetener of choice (NOT optional)

1. In a medium pot on the stove add the Turmeric, Ginger, Black pepper, and Oil.

2. Stir over medium-low heat for 7 minutes while you think of something nice.

3. Once you can smell the spice mixture, add milk. Whisk to combine.

4. Simmer on medium-low until it almost boils. Nut milks will separate if you boil them.

5. Turn off the heat.

6. Add sweetener. Stir until the sweetener melts and blends in.

7. Strain and serve in tea cups.

   

   
   Turmeric has lots of health benefits, and is mostly known for reducing inflammation!

Paradigm Shift

If you lose your way on your entrepreneurial journey and forget why you started, it can very soon become empty and meaningless.

If you get caught up in the numbers and make it about validation and pride rather than deep gratitude and celebration… you may end up going against yourself, your spirit, your alignment…

This work requires a constant checking-in if you are truly here for heart-centered reasons…

Or the money/status/ “success” might go to your head & change your heart.

May we celebrate wealth,
May we learn to create it from a beautiful place,
May we stay grounded in the process,
May we find it in our hearts to walk together, even when we were taught to fight.
May we choose greatness together, rather than beating each other to the top.
May we become such extraordinary humans on this journey that the wealth isn’t close to the best part… no matter how good it gets.

And if we do lose our way, may we take responsibility for our own demons, shortcomings, and addictions that led us to lose sight of what this was really all about…

Despite the shame we might feel for having steered astray from the path we had set out to walk on.

Integrity can be chosen in every moment.

You can learn and course correct,
and come back stronger and wiser.

This is your creation, it always has been.

With super sexy self care and all my love,
Groovy Girl 🦋

Yet, we often find ourselves tangled in a web of shame and judgment, both towards ourselves and others.

It's time to break free from the chains of societal conditioning and embrace the magic that comes with accepting our erotic desires.

Let's dive deep into our unconscious minds, where these lingering thoughts persist, and explore them with self-love, compassion, and non-judgmental curiosity.

By opening up to our own experiences and listening to others, we can embark on a transformative journey of sexual healing.

No longer should we see our desires as inherently uncontrollable or dangerous. Healing begins when we allow ourselves to celebrate our authentic desires and engage with others from a place of love and respect.

It's time to dismantle the pervasive messages that undermine our sexual freedom.

Together, let's create a world where pleasure is embraced, where sexual shame is shattered, and where our desires are celebrated as a vital part of our human experience.

Plant-Powered Recipe of the Day:

Pleasure, a catalyst that forever transformed my existence, holds a sacred place at the core of who I am and what I stand for.

It is through the pursuit and celebration of pleasure that I have unearthed the true essence of my being, embracing a journey of self-discovery and empowerment.

In the realm of pleasure, I have discovered the profound impact it has on my life. It is more than just fleeting moments of delight; it is a transformative force that guides me towards alchemizing pain into growth and self-healing.

Through surrendering to the depths of pleasure, I have found the path to profound self-acceptance.

This journey of pleasure opens the gateway to experiencing the power of the present moment. It is in the exquisite dance of feeling, where I encounter the richness of life's offerings. With an open heart and a receptive mind, I invite the abundance of experiences and connections to flow into my life, enriching my very existence.

Within the tapestry of pleasure lies the liberation of desires, untamed and unapologetic. I recognize that my desires are a reflection of my truest self, a testament to my authenticity.

By honoring my desires, I claim my sovereignty and rewrite the codes that have confined me for far too long.

Journal Prompt: How do you appreciate and make room for pleasure in your daily life? Ex: Flowers, Decor, Clothing

Dear soul,

I love you and all that you embody. Your powerful body, crafted from stardust and galaxies, carries the essence of limitless potential and boundless pleasure. Embrace the path of pleasure liberation, for it is in this exploration that you will uncover the depths of your being, experiencing the true essence of your divine self.

With super sexy self care and all my love,
Groovy Girl 🦋

You will see clearly how your journey through entrepreneurship, and what you learned in growing your small business, were invaluable along the way, and still you may realize that none of it quite prepared you…

For the greatness, the aliveness, the deep sense of purpose and pride. And the pain, the disappointment, the resentment… 

That comes with the indescribable experience of becoming a known leader in your field…

Of having the experience of your name walking into the room before you do…

What matters most is that you be clear about your heart’s desire.

That you make the choice of how you want to live your life based on what YOU truly long for.

That you understand that your dreams aren’t too big, or too small… they’re just right for YOU.

That different seasons of your life may bring different desires and transitioning into a new season doesn’t mean the dreams you held before were wrong.

Allow yourself to evolve into more as it feels right and scale back as it feels right. 

Pivot, and course-correct every step along the way because… evolution and growth over a lifetime.

You don’t have to adapt yourself for anyone, but you get to adapt yourself for YOU as you please.

There is no frequency on earth stronger than the frequency of truth. The life you truly desire to live will be the easiest one to manifest!

Do not be swayed, do not get lost in the need to fit in OR stand out.

Just cultivate the strength required to live the life your heart longs to live.

Plant-Powered Recipe of the Day: Spicy Edamame

Ingredients:

• 2 cups edamame (frozen or fresh)

• 1 tablespoon vegetable oil

• 2 cloves garlic, minced

• 1 teaspoon grated ginger

• 2 tablespoons soy sauce

• 1 tablespoon sriracha sauce (adjust to taste)

• 1 teaspoon sesame oil

• 1 tablespoon sesame seeds (optional, for garnish)

• 1 green onion, thinly sliced (optional, for garnish)

Instructions:

1. If using frozen edamame, cook them according to the package instructions (aka microwave ‘em!). If using fresh edamame, boil them in lightly salted water for about 5 minutes until tender. Drain and set aside.

2. In a large skillet or wok, heat the vegetable oil over medium heat.

3. Add the minced garlic and grated ginger to the skillet. Sauté for about 1 minute until fragrant.

4. Add the cooked edamame to the skillet and toss to coat them in the garlic and ginger mixture.

5. In a small bowl, whisk together the soy sauce, sriracha sauce, and sesame oil.

6. Pour the sauce mixture over the edamame in the skillet. Stir well to evenly distribute the sauce.

7. Continue cooking for another 2-3 minutes, stirring frequently, until the edamame are heated through and well coated in the spicy sauce.

8. Remove from heat and transfer the spicy edamame to a serving dish.

9. Sprinkle with sesame seeds and sliced green onions for garnish.

10. Serve the spicy edamame as an appetizer or snack. They are delicious both warm and at room temperature.

Enjoy your spicy edamame with a kick of flavor and heat!

Paradigm Shift:

Harness Your Power, Embrace Your Dreams ✨

You are a force of nature, a powerful being capable of shaping your reality. From the depths of destruction to the heights of creation, you possess an unparalleled strength within.

But remember, with great power comes great responsibility. Along your journey, you will face challenges and hardships. You will stumble and fall, yet you will rise stronger than before.

Mistakes are stepping stones to growth, and through them, you will learn valuable lessons.

Stay focused and cultivate your passion and leadership. Embrace the truths about yourself and sharpen your skills. Be willing to dig deep, communicate, and forgive. As you set and enforce your boundaries, you will gain clarity on your standards.

Entrepreneurship and the growth of your small business have prepared you for greatness. But know that the path to becoming a known leader in your field is both exhilarating and demanding.

You will experience pride, purpose, and the pain of disappointment. Yet, amidst it all, listen to your heart's desires.

Your dreams are yours alone, neither too big nor too small.

They are perfect for you in each season of your life.

Stay true to your frequency, for the life you long to live is the one that aligns with your deepest truths.

Cultivate the strength required to live the life your heart yearns for. There is no stronger frequency on this Earth than that of truth. Manifest your desires with unwavering belief and embrace the joyous journey ahead.

Live authentically, follow your dreams, and remember that you possess the power to create a life that aligns with your heart's longing. ✨💖🌈

With super sexy self care and all my love,
Groovy Girl 🦋